A Course for Couples During Covid
Whether you're trying to work through the impact of an aff
Whether you're trying to work through the impact of an affair, have become like roommates, or feel like you're constantly failing in the eyes of your partner, I can help you to heal and connect. If you feel like you have the same argument over and over, I can support you to find your way out of the loop and into mutual safety, security and intimacy. Even if you're just getting started in your relationship or planning to get married, EFT couples therapy will guide you towards the best beginning possible!
I will help you to feel safe so that you can open up and share what's really going on underneath all the frustration and disconnection. I will assist you to be more aware of what's happening within yourselves as well as what's happening between you. Sex can get better too because when you feel safe, you can play!
We all fight about the same things: parenting, sex, money, jobs around the house, in-laws, etc. but what really matters is how we fight. The research clearly demonstrates that getting caught up in the content of fights is what gets us stuck in never-ending loops whereas learning to explore the feelings that are experienced and expressed when we fight helps us to connect. EFT provides me with a structure for sessions so I can help you to understand how you are getting stuck in your relationship as well as learn how to talk about problems in a new way that draws you closer together.
"Vulnerability defined as being "open to attack" or "weakness" is too limiting. It is more than just the dark emotions like fear, shame, grief, sadness and disappointment. Vulnerability is the core of all emotions and feelings. It is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy and creativity."~ Brene Brown
As depicted above, the Koru (Maori for "loop") is a spiral based on the shape of a new unfurling fern frond and symbolizing new life, growth, strength and peace. The circular shape of the Koru helps to convey the idea of perpetual movement while the inner coil suggests a return to the point of origin.
What to Expect...
The three of us will
As depicted above, the Koru (Maori for "loop") is a spiral based on the shape of a new unfurling fern frond and symbolizing new life, growth, strength and peace. The circular shape of the Koru helps to convey the idea of perpetual movement while the inner coil suggests a return to the point of origin.
What to Expect...
The three of us will meet for one session altogether first. Then, I will meet with each of you once individually to get a little more family and relationship history. Then, we will meet altogether again and discuss whether couples counselling is the best option for you at this time. If it is, we will go over a plan for our ongoing work together and what else you can expect.
On a personal note...
I love to learn about human connection and grow as a person. I enjoy riding bikes with my husband Matthew and walking our dog Charlie. I look forward to small gatherings with our two adult children, Joshua and Natalie, and other extended family and friends.
I am also trained in EFIT which stands for Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy. I work with individuals who want to improve their couple relationships but their partners aren't ready to attend counselling. This is a relationship-friendly form of individual counselling.
EFT CONSULTATION
Are you looking to learn more about EFT? Are you on the certification path? I provide EFT consultation services and would be happy to work with you. Please contact me to discuss this further.
To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides.
~ David Viscott
Covid has dramatically changed our day to day experience: isolation, working and schooling at home, the loss of social outlets, job insecurity, financial stress, conflict about who is doing what and how much, constant overwhelm…and, turning online to try to unwind and escape, even if just for a few
Covid has dramatically changed our day to day experience: isolation, working and schooling at home, the loss of social outlets, job insecurity, financial stress, conflict about who is doing what and how much, constant overwhelm…and, turning online to try to unwind and escape, even if just for a few moments or after everyone else has gone to bed.
If you are feeling that things are harder, you are not alone. But these times can also be an opportunity to build exceptional couple relationships —as well as positive memories, intimate moments, and genuine connection.
Consciously Connected will teach you how.
Why Consciously Connected?
It can be very challenging to be emotionally present or A.R.E. (Accessible, Responsive and Engaged, © Sue Johnson) for your partner when you yourself feel overwhelmed or numb and shut down inside.
When you are outside of your “window of tolerance” for emotional experience, it is hard to think clearly and respond to your partner in a balanced manner.
Our transformative approach offers a new way forward during those times when you may feel helpless, hopeless, and alone.
You may have tried everything you know from getting angry and defensive to keeping everything in, to asking nicely to begging tearfully and nothing seems to work.
This is where Consciously Connected helps. Sign up for this refreshing course and discover how understanding nature helps you to repair, communicate more effectively, take down your self-protective walls, and flourish as never before.
Consciously Connected takes our work as couples to the next level. Join us and find out how to build a sustainable, reliable, and truly loving connection with your partner. Take the time to nurture your couple’s bond together with us.