Koru Couples Counselling and Marriage Counselling

Consciously Connected is perfect for couples who want to:

• Feel strong physically, emotionally and spiritually
• Gain inspiration and vision for their future together.
• Make sense of the circular arguments that disconnect them and learn tools to exit these destructive patterns.
• Understand how to grow together and become effectively interdependent.
• Maintain their individuality and confidently engage with, respond to and fulfill their partners.
• Overcome conflict, overwhelm, and uncertainty by embracing opportunity.
• Develop meaningful connections with other couples who can relate and are going through the same things.

*** Consciously Connected is for couples who are diverse, pre-marital, long-term, blended families, with or without previous counselling experience.

We're so glad you're reaching out.

We are both married and moms, and we specialize in working with people to help them build the best relationships possible.

We have each had our own couple journeys and have experienced all sorts of relationship ups and downs over the years. We understand how impactful the quality of our couple relationships can be on the rest of our life experiences, and on our individual sense of health and wellbeing.

So we set out to help other couples achieve their maximum potential with all of our professional and personal knowledge.

With more than 35 years of combined experience, we’ve helped hundreds of couples and people in general. We’d love to help you too.

How the course Works:

We designed Consciously Connected to provide a transformational and supportive environment for you.

We will meet 8 times on Zoom for 1.5 hours each session. We will teach the course content live. You will be able to ask questions and improve your relationship through workshops and exercises.

Module 1: The Consciously Connected Couple

Get a grasp of what’s happening within and between you when you argue (Yes, you are a normal couple).
Understand why it’s becoming harder and harder to get along and stay together.
Know what nature teaches us about the foundation of our love relationships, the secret solution!

Module 2: Loving With Purpose

Explore what love truly is (and what it is not).
Align yourselves with nature in order to achieve a loving relationship.
Learn how your couple relationship can help you fulfill your greatest potential and purpose in life.

Module 3: Uniting against the Ego in Relationships

Learn to pivot away from the blame and shame game by understanding the gaps and walls that exist between you and your partner in a new way.
Foster compassion and acceptance for your partner as we explore human nature together.
Process how the ego helps us and how it harms us as couples.

Module 4: Masculine and Feminine in Harmony

Unravel the mystery of masculine and feminine energies according to nature!
Give and receive (share!) at a much deeper level.
Get to know your partner beyond ego and embrace the balance between you.

Module 5: Transform Conflict into Opportunity

Explore how your nervous system hijacks communication and how to handle it.
Gain tools and strategies to balance mind and emotion.
Turn battling into bonding using a whole new perspective on conflict.

Module 6: Building Intimacy in the Bedroom

Learn how to create passion from the inside out.
Prevent the “sexual death spiral” from dampening your desire.
Create a healthy, mutual, affectionate, and erotic connection.

Module 7: The Conscious Shift

Transform the walls that are between you and your partner into bridges.
Create a new, shared space between you that benefits you both.
Use your relationship as a mirror to help you get to know yourself and advance your personal growth.

Module 8: Constantly Evolving Love

Play the “game of love” and breathe vitality into your relationship, over time.
Engage with a community of couples in order to succeed together.
Embrace the profits and benefits of this new approach to being in a couple.

Why Consciously Connected?

It can be very challenging to be emotionally present or A.R.E. (Accessible, Responsive and Engaged, © Sue Johnson) for your partner when you yourself feel overwhelmed or numb and shut down inside.
When you are outside of your “window of tolerance” for emotional experience, it is hard to think clearly and respond to your partner in a balanced manner.

Our transformative approach offers a new way forward during those times when you may feel helpless, hopeless, and alone.

You may have tried everything you know, from getting angry and defensive to keeping everything in, to asking nicely or begging tearfully and nothing seems to work.

This is where Consciously Connected helps. Sign up for this refreshing course and discover how understanding nature helps you to repair, communicate more effectively, take down your self-protective walls and flourish as never before.

Consciously Connected takes our work as couples to the next level. Join us and find out how to build a sustainable, reliable, and truly loving connection with your partner. Take the time to nurture your bond together with us.

Consciously Connected...building community for couples.

Are you worried deep down that you aren’t worth attention and care? Do you sometimes think, “It doesn’t matter how hard I try or how much I do, my partner will never be happy with me and I’ll end up falling short regardless?” Are you both caught up in blame and shame?

We all go through similar struggles, as couples, both in terms of what we fight about (money, sex, parenting, jobs around the house and in-laws, etc.) as well as how we fight (loops of attack, defense and shutdown).

WE ARE ALL IN THE SAME BOAT.

IT’S TIME FOR US TO CONNECT AS A COMMUNITY OF COUPLES.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to feel normal and a sense of belonging within a community of couples?

Wouldn’t it be great not to feel like you have to hide as though you’re different from other couples?

Dr. Sue Johnson, the leader of the development of Emotionally-Focused Therapy for couples, says we are down to a “community of two” in our society which puts a lot of pressure on our partners to be our “everything.”

Well, just like the saying goes, “it takes a village to raise a child,” it also takes a whole environment to keep us on track in our couple relationships. We can’t do it alone.

We need to surround ourselves with a positive environment, including other couples that will remind us what’s really important and inspire us to adopt new approaches in our relationships.

So many of our issues result from the challenging and even traumatic environments we were raised in which is why it’s so hard to change them. We need a new framework that will provide positive examples, accountability and support in learning novel ways of relating.

This is our goal. To create, alongside you, a new, supportive environment, full of couples who are learning how to connect and can encourage one another along the way!

Common Questions

Is this course LGBTQ friendly?

Yes! The rules of love are not gender-specific and apply to everyone! If we speak of “masculine/feminine” we are referencing energies within each of us. We also teach generalized attributes of men and women that can be applied to specific cases as suitable. We do use personal examples from our heterosexual relationships in the program.

Is this course for singles too?

If you cannot participate with your partner, you can join and complete the exercises individually. When one person in a partnership changes their "steps in the dance," the relationship changes and has to adjust as well.

If you are single, this course will give you a thorough and powerful foundation that will help you create conscious connections in your current relationships and prepare you for a potential, future couple relationship.

We are a private couple. Do we have to share in the group or interact with other couples?

Going through the program with other couples is the most helpful part of this great group experience. We are all influenced by the environments we are exposed to. Most couples express how beneficial it is to feel like a normal couple since we all go through similar challenges. Also, this course provides the opportunity to learn from "positive examples" and to be inspired by the successes of other couples. There will be opportunities to share in the chat, by opening your microphones in the main zoom room and in breakout rooms with other couples. What you choose to share or not is, of course, up to you.

This course is not for you if...

Consciously Connected is a psycho-educational process and includes sharing opportunities.
If you feel unsafe and are in a crisis involving...

the recent discovery of infidelity
an active affair
other breaches of trust
severe addiction or mental health concerns
extreme controlling or abusive behaviour

...individual or couples therapy is likely the better option for you at the time.

Amanda Green